Cracks in your life can lead to ruin …

This is one of those blog posts where there’s a pressing truth I want to share as broadly as possible. It’s this:

If something is cracked in your life, your marriage, your relationships, your ministry, or whatever, FIX IT NOW! A horrible mistake many people make is leaving such things cracked, but those cracks become fissures and eventually split open and cause harm to all involved.

I’ve seen it many times, and I’m working with people now whose lives will go through great pain and loss because they did not fix the cracks that were obvious years ago.

You may have seen it, or maybe you’re experiencing it …

… the couple whose marriage is an unhappy one, they go to a few sessions of counseling, quit, and continue to flounder …

… the family that insists on ignoring the cracks in their relationships because they “just don’t talk about such things” …

… the minister who sees cracks in his ministry but just keeps telling himself he’ll get around to fixing them sometime soon …

… only for these cracks to become fissures that rip open and bring to ruin marriages, friendships, partnerships, ministries, businesses, and so on.

Just because they failed to be pro-active.

Sadly, most people are not pro-active. H.B. London, Jr., and Neil Wiseman revealed our penchant for letting cracks cause harm in their book, “Pastors at Risk”:

“From the world of business, Robert J. Kriegel offers an observation about being proactive that applies to churches, ‘Research shows that the overwhelming majority of Americans (85 percent) are reactive and static, not action- or dynamic- or instinct-oriented. They wait and meet, meet and wait. With a ready arsenal of conservative, conventional wisdom at their disposal, they try to control outcomes in an out-of-control world.'”

Meaning they ignore the cracks until they become fissures that splinter everything, causing chaos and harm.

Some people try to address their cracks but bring in the wrong help. For example, I know of a couple who years ago started marriage counseling, but the counselor wasn’t skilled and competent enough to provide the kind of help they needed. So they floundered in counseling, then soon quit. Now their marriage is coming to an ugly, painful end. Instead of giving up, they may have been able to fix their cracks if they had been pro-active enough to keep searching for a competent therapist who had the skills to provide the kind of help they really needed.

Sometimes getting the right kind of help you need to fix the cracks in your life isn’t easy, but let me encourage you to do whatever it takes, pay any cost, and be as persistent as necessary to fix the cracks in your life and relationships so that you won’t have to suffer the worst of all consequences that come from ignoring them.

Scotty